Great article and it raises an interesting dichotomy in the dating/relationship world. When I met my partner she was earning more than me but we're both high achievers, so this was a non-issue for us. Then there was a time when I earned more than her and then a few years later she earned more than me.

We don't feel threatened by each other, on the other hand we inspire each other and often are each other's career/life coach. We both know that if we invest in each other's lives that it only enriches each other and the whole of the relationship.

That said, this utopia doesn't come without a lot of bumps along the way, but if both are committed to lift each other up, then it works.

To your points about men feeling threatened, I agree 100%. I've known men that have cheated on their higher earning spouses because it made them feel like a man! Consciously or subconsciously they thought money was a made up thing and that going out and "hunting for strange" is what nature wants them to do.

Sadly, that fits the narrative you outline above. Quite honestly the things that helped strengthen my marriage was communication, inside and outside of the bedroom. Whether that's career, sex, or in general just life, become the best person you can be and don't be afraid of another person's success. We're all going to die and no one will ever remember you anyway, so make your life and relationships count.

/rant off.

Thank you.