I found this to be true, which is pretty strange. Men who become Fathers are typically acknowledged and validated that our offspring are ours and we should go back to work. Toughen up the boys, love the Princess, and ironically continue to foster stereotypes.

Yeah, society still values women to be baby factories. Be the Madonna-Whores, perfect Mothers and homemakers. It's crude and not enlightened.

When I was in my 20's I was like, "Kids? Fuck dat noise!" Then when I had them in my late 30's I was like, "I want so many more!" Yeah having kids is rough and stressful but I realized that I got the chance to break the cycle, to break the chains that held me down and generations before me. I told my son, it's ok to cry. I raise my daughter to expect an equal partner. I didn't birth my children, but I get to help raise them! Hell, I'm raising my nephews as a non-biological Father. They value what I say, what I expect of them to be.

I've read a lot of your essays and posts and I know that this topic is a big item in your life, but I want you to remember, non-biological mothers matter A LOT. Yeah the patriarchy and society says you're not worthy that you didn't push a kid out of your birth canal, but you know what? Fuck That Noise!

Things are changing, there are many more minds awakening. We can all be Mothers and Fathers. It's not a noun, but a verb.

Ok, I'll shut up now.