I recently saw a tweet or meme, can't remember which, that said "Eat well, dance, and love often" as the "trick" to a happy life.
I believe we had some Medium banter back and forth about your partner James cooking and how I discovered the joy in cooking for my partner and family, so I share your sentiments here.
While I've heard of lectin causing issues before, I have in past went on the Paleo diet and saw amazing changes in my body and well being. Unfortunately I love bread too much and there's a ton of rice in my house, so after 3 months I went back to the standard diet my family ate.
That's the hard part, if one member of the family has a special diet while the others don't. It makes it hard to stick with it!
I wish you good luck and a wonderful "new" food journey and good health.