I'm so glad you realize this. It's sometimes a very hard thing to truly believe because, as you wrote, the bar has been so low for men and women have been lowering their bars to come to an equilibrium.

I believe that a healthy relationship is one where you are actively a cheerleader, support partner, and accountability holder for each other. You want the relationship to grow and build.

I will admit that I have not been the best partner in the past and I do still make mistakes but S and I hold each other accountable and support where needed. I could not be where I am in my life and career without her support, and likewise she couldn't be where she is now without mine.