This was something I had to learn for myself as a husband. I never fully grasped the emotional and physical toil my wife shouldered around her daily life. It wasn't until I saw that and really stepped up that she was able to "relax" and feel comfortable enough to turn on her pleasure centers.

I also think that we fill up our lives with useless time sucks and needless stressors. IMHO if a couple was suffering from a dead bedroom situation I would first go about cutting out all those time sucks and stressors first, then see what needs to be done to run the house/kids/life and split them equitable.

Wonderful article, I enjoyed reading it. Thank you.