Yes. I'm lucky that I have a few women in my life that I could build into something that goes beyond a simple friendship and they would welcome that if I were to ask. I'm a lucky man that way.

I'm excited for you that you're exploring a new relationship with a female writer. While my sexuality has gotten more fluid and open over the years, I know I'm definitely not bisexual, no matter how many 'bi-guys' seem attracted to me.

As I come to terms with sexuality, I realize that emotional connection is the thing that drives me. There are gradations of that (shallow or deep), where the shallow ones are friends and the deep ones are romantic. By all means, I don't minimize the shallow ones as inherently superficial, it's just a line between being romantic or not with them.

A deep emotional connection for me is inherently romantic. Cuddling is so intimate for me. I so adore the spooning, the skin-to-skin contact, and the smooches. Sex is optional in those cases but often comes after because of the emotional charge. Nothing like a lazy Sunday morning cuddle-fuck session.

If ever my relationship with her were to open up I would need to spend time to understand and navigate my emotional needs and see if I could apply it to multiple partners.