You are (were) meeting the wrong kinda men then! I know, I know, but JFC. This is where punk rock saved me. I was that geeky out of place (and bullied) scrawny kid that found solace in big ideas, alternative viewpoints, and creative expression. That led me to me meet more of my tribe.
The riotgrrls I knew would drop kick a dude if they complained about a freckle and if they liked you they'd push your face into their hairy lady parts. Fuck that noise!